Being Mean

Vonita

A few days ago, I was upset at a comment a friend sent to me in an email. I consulted with a trusted friend (BFF!), and responded in a fashion that gave me the upper hand. In the middle of the night I woke up, and in that dream-like state, I sent a note flipping the situation around. Restoring dignity to another, and making myself less. I have spent the most of today wondering why did I do that? Why did I give the other person the upper hand, at the expense of my own ego? My ego would prefer to hold the power. Now after reflection, I am soulfully glad. I am not a mean person. I don’t enjoy seeing others suffer. My reaction to a situation in a half-asleep state is a reflection of who I inherently am. And when ego is set aside, it is who I would rather be. Peace be unto others, and peace be unto myself.

24 thoughts on “Being Mean”

  2. Here you were being totally true to yourself…and deep deep down, listen to your inner voice, you know you were following your natural inner path. It is never about having the so called upper hand but having compassion for those who are not aware of all these undercurrents going on…Peace to you today in all you do and all that you are. : >)

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    1. Thank you so much! Compassion is a good word. And when all is said and done, it is about having love, and spreading love. Not in playing games, and especially not with people. To be honest I was not entirely mean, I had just initially sent an ambiguous reply, but when I woke up I sent a clear, unambiguous one. Peace to you too, thank you 🙂

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      1. : >) you made everything clearer and made your peace. Playing games with people causes suffering in whatever form. We should all wear a necklace saying Handle with Care! You also take care.

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      1. If you decide to take some down, I would not delete but mark them as private. Your copyright is protected electronically through WordPress every time you post and update a post. – Just a suggestion from something I learned after a rather hurtful email I received 🙂

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  8. THIS was exactly what I needed to read. It is so comforting to come back to this side of the world and fine kind and compassionate people. I have participated in a blog for a couple of years that is very supportive and hence; positive for me most of the time. But randomly there is what I believe to be one person that tries to seem like more that comes on and begins insulting and berating some of the commentors. I at times have been targeted as well. I picture this poor person hiding behind their keyboard just being mean and getting some kind of high out of it because they can. I kind of back tracked and did the same thing you did but I GET it. And I’d soooo choose you for a friend than this anonymous person that is throwing hate darts cyberly. Loved your post. Thank you for sharing. It made me feel not so alone in my head! lol. I think that your situation is a bit different because the dart came from someone you personally knew when I can actually choose to just not click on a site. But your point is well taken. It is better to choose to be kind and not to kick yourself over it.

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    1. Thank you so much! Sorry to hear about the anonymous person. I keep on having echoes of this situation sound in my head. Like, why couldn’t I just be mean back. Wanting some sort of human nature satisfaction. Etc, etc. But we are who we are! Thank you for the encouragement. Sorry you feel so alone in your head, I am feeling the same way ❤

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