Here’s the deal with narcissists. They are like set in cement, and never, ever change. It is all about them. Even when it is not about them, they make it about them. And if they feel criticized in any form or fashion, expect to be punished. In whatever form. Expect to be ignored and brushed aside. Because you are not worth anything. They are experts at manipulation and mask-wearing. The facade is everything. Even if they are caught red-handed, they will be annoyed if others do not believe their lies. Because how can others not believe what they say? Even if what they are saying is so ludicrous it would be evident to a three-year old. They will attempt to gas-light. May succeed. Because you will doubt your own sanity. They are over-the-top charmers. Their charm will intoxicate. Until the coin is flipped and their real self is revealed. Cold, callous, abrupt, dismissive, anything but charming. It is hard to be charming all the time. The facade saps energy. It will only be a matter of time before the real self emerges. Be warned. Be prepared. Take care. Take action and walk away.
Finally, how do you know when a narc is lying?
When his (her) lips are moving.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/through-the-looking-glass/201511/beware-the-charming-narcissist
Tricky to walk away when one happens to be a family member lol Narcissists are a pain
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Yes family members would be tricky
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Figured avoiding them entirely is a good remedy…the alternative is always getting punished, ugh
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Yes I am learning that too I might write a post on it
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Looking forward to it, its therapeutic discussing it with others
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I posted it x
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My Dad is one…crappy.
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I’m sorry to hear that
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Its okay.
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I am so addicted to the word narcissist, but that doesn’t mean I like them per se. Very well explained.
I like the last part 😊
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Thank you!
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you’re welcome
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Did you meet my sister-in-law? LOL!
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Lol! I’m sorry to hear that x
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Haha… I got to know her thinking pretty well and it is so much fun to beat her with her own weapons…. lol!
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Please email me how you did that? Also I posted a new post on my experiences, some of what I’ve shared with you previously you have the background!
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Haha! I simply got to know how she is thinking. She always thought she was so much smarter in manipulating me. So I started saying things (without lying!) or acting in a way I wanted her to believe things …. lol! She got completely confused when everyhing turned out differently only because of her false attitude 😂
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I’m glad you were able to do that! 😂
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Really, here I have no qualms… lol!
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All true. Horrifyingly so. My narcissist brought me to the brink of madness.
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I’m sorry to hear that xx
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Vonita, This reminds me of famous one who is a leader and it reminds me of an ex-husband who really drew me in. I felt like I was on a roller coaster ride with that ex! Hugs, Robin xo
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I’m sorry to hear that Robin xo
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Yes, I was punished for having feelings he did not agree with 😌
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I’m sorry to hear that, all the best to you xx
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Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
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