Empathy

Yesterday I was upset with my son for getting his punctuation wrong. I am always such a bossy mother, telling him to do this, do that, do the next thing. Please.

This evening I came home in tears. Always feeling a failure, never really fitting it, being socially awkward and introverted. Being technically weak in a technical role.

My son came and sat with me in my room. He rubbed my back for me and comforted me. The others in the house continued what they were doing.

And I thought to myself. My son’s heart touched mine. He entered into my pain. He had and has always had a special gift of empathy. We are born with souls. Sometimes it gets crowded out. At the end of the day, who cares about punctuation? What does it really matter? 

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14 thoughts on “Empathy

  1. I can so well empathize with what you said here because i also constantly keep telling my daughter about this and that. And when we go out or whenever I need someone i feel that child is the best one to understand me and my needs. And then i also regret being bossy with her because i know my daughter can falter in academics but she surely is a god gifted child.

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      • So true, I keep telling my daughter to do this, do that,don’t do this and all but I didn’t realize that she’s actually a person with a beautiful heart. She loves and respects and above all she knows how to empathise

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      • Sounds so similar to my son! He’s also had a special gift for empathy even from when he was young, from little insightful comments he would make, he is also very loving and respectful, thanks for sharing xx

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  2. Our children teach us many things and to have one born with such empathy is an amazing blessing. Remember that they chose you as their mom so that they could learn from you too. What we perceive to be our failures and wrong doings are lessons for both them and us. Don’t be so hard on yourself, we all do the best that we can with what we have and what we know at that exact moment.

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    • Thanks for the encouragement, Debbie. We all want the best for our children, parenting doesn’t come with a handbook though, but I just felt thankful in that moment of being distraught and that it gave him an opportunity to show his empathy once again. Sometimes we get bogged down with life in general xx

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  3. yes, what he possesses is something that is much stronger than grammar skills, he has something that cannot be taught, even to the person who is perfect on paper, he has empathy and compassion. and that is wonderful.

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  4. Yes are an incredible mother..not many feel like you felt..most of the mother’s are bossy and they continue to be like that,they don’t realise the gift of having a child who cares for them too… children are our pride ,our symbol of love,our everything…:)

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