How to Cope 101

How to cope when you don’t know how to cope?

Stop the stories.

Stop the projections

Stop the comparisons.

And simply do

What needs to be done today.



A New Normal

I made a decision to change my life and now it feels crazy weird and I feel crazy weird and nothing feels normal anymore and so I need to get used to a new normal. I dare not look back because there is nothing to look back to.

A Breath of Air

I saw the morning sun reflected in the waves that rolled towards me.

I felt the strength of the rays as they landed on my delicate skin.

The salt exfoliated my toes and feet and legs and thighs.

I surrendered to the water’s might as it overtook my height.

I submerged and allowed the wave to wash over me.

Helpless I was at the mercy of a power greater than I.

I let go and when i resurfaced and could take another breathe,

I breathed and knew in that moment

That is all I need to do.


In my younger days, especially in those when I began work as an IBM graduate, I had no idea of who I was or where I would like to be.

I remember attending a conference where we heard about vision. The difference between having dreams and a vision. A vision is more concrete. It has a plan. Steps to take. I remember feeling disheartened. I had no dreams or visions. I had no idea where I wanted to be. I wanted some day to be married with children. I wanted to be a wife and mother. And that was about it.

Looking back, I have been blessed in what I wished for. I’m a wife and mother. And I know more about myself now than I ever did. I love to draw. I love to create. I love to write. I love to achieve. And I have tenacity.

Hopefully I still have a few more days left. I still don’t have much of a vision. But I know I want to achieve. I want to be the best I can be. The best designer, the best writer, the best software developer, the best person I can be.