Love Hate Challenge

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Erika has invited me to participate in the Love/Hate challenge, so thought I would give it a go! Erika shares upbeat, inspirational posts and can be found here:

https://erikakind.wordpress.com

I have to list ten things I love and hate. So here goes!

Love!
1 My bed and pillow
2 Mango pancakes
3 Coffee with cream
4 My family
5 African Safaris
6 Johannesburg thunderstorms
7 Music and dancing
8 Bath with bubbles
9 Massages
10 Men if gorgeous 😉

Hate!
1 Men with tempers (abusive men)
2 Being stuck in an elevator alone
3 Moths in my pantry cupboard (this means war)
4 Standing on the bus
5 Clothes that mysteriously shrink
6 Pairing up socks that are not even mine
7 Migraines
8 Being stuck on work problems
9 Being left out (of anything!)
10 Canned hunting

Please forgive for not nominating any, I’m standing on the bus (one of my pet hates – see list above). If anyone would like to participate, please do so and ping back to me!

Thank you for reading! And thank you Erika!

Privacy

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Do Not Disturb.”

I don’t blog photos of my children or my husband. I have blogged a baby photo of them each (and my daughter in my post Mud and Fun), I asked my husband first if I could, and he was fine with me doing that. He said they could be any babies really. And in Mud and Fun my daughter is literally covered in mud.

The good thing with poetry is that it is just poetry. Most of my writing is based on what I feel, but at times I tap into moments past for inspiration. I used to publicize on google-plus but my husband used to click on random posts and then quiz me on them. I stopped the publicize except on Twitter and sometimes I post to FB. I could post anonymously but don’t feel strongly that my writing needs to be hidden. I don’t have many skeletons in my closet. I do have a few LOL, hopefully they will stay hidden!

Bitter Pill

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Baggage Check.”

A few weeks ago I was hurt by someone. Struggling to deal with it, I want to lash out. My human nature craves revenge. I hate how you hurt me. I hate how I allowed you to hurt me. Daily, nightly I have to seek a soft heart. Forgiveness, love, hope and faith. Past experience has taught me that is the only way.

Learning to Read

I taught myself to read by filling in the gaps. As soon as I had “the cat sat on the mat” covered, I deemed myself sufficiently capable of reading chapter books. My sister and her friends were always reading chapter books and looking very grown up. So I grabbed her copy of the Enchanted Wood and started filling in the gaps. I got stuck on the word “bush”. No idea how to read the SH. Until! A few pages in there was a picture of the mushroom stools. They would pop out of the ground and form very useful fairy seats. And look at that! I could match the mushroom word with the picture and right there was a pattern. Mush and bush. But bush rhyming with mush doesn’t make any sense. But pronounced differently (with a U sound), it becomes bush! And that is how I figured out the SH sound. And how to read “bush”.

Childhood

At my graduation May 1996, a month after I lost my mother.

My Graduation, May 1996

I couldn’t speak as a child. I guess it is called “being mute”. My sister used to speak on my behalf. If I wanted a sandwich or something to eat, my sister would ask my mother. When I was about five, I was taken for speech therapy. I had to complete exercises at home. My mother would ask me to fetch three things from her bedroom – book, slippers, pjs. I would go to the bedroom and have to try and remember the three items. I remember having to go back a few times to ask her to repeat the items. My Dad told me last year it was suggested I attend a “special needs” school. My father refused. I was held back and started school a year late. By that time I was able to speak, and after learning a few words I went off and taught myself to read Enid Blyton’s “Enchanted Wood”. I was the first child in the Grade to be able to read fluently, and that was with no extra help. And ever since then I was fairly academic. I did well in my grades, and graduated with an Honours degree in Computer Science and Applied Maths. But every so often, remnants of my shortcomings crop up. Like Saturday for instance. I started painting a “Paint By Numbers” set, easy as. There’s the template, all laid out and numbered, and the little paint boxes all numbered, and paintbrush. But then! Some of the sections had two or three numbers on them. What? Now what? What do I do now? Hmmm. I turned the cover over, and no instructions. Do I paint the first layer and then add a second layer on top? I’m confused. Eventually I had to turn to my nine-year-old. What do I do if there are two or three numbers appearing together. Then what? Oh, you mix them! Ah.

Girl Time

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My daughter and I are having girl time. Boys are out on a three-hour cycle. My son is planning to do a ninety km event later this year. He will be twelve. Good for them I say! In the meanwhile my angel daughter has plaited my hair and touched up my face. She is teaching me to paint because she has been “painting for ages”. Her presence lights up my world.

Bullying

I just read a bullying comment. Not on my blog, but on a blog I follow. I read the blog post and found it quite interesting – nothing offensive about it. Merely someone posing a question. Read / don’t read. Follow / don’t follow. But Why would someone gain pleasure in leaving a horrible, mean, sarcastic comment? Does it make them feel better? Give them a rush? I don’t get it. And especially, and I don’t mean to offend, when it is a man being disrespectful to a woman. Men have always had the physical advantage over women. They always will have. So be nice about it. Us women have to play amongst the lions every single day, and hope we don’t get attacked.

Weddings

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My Egyptian colleague is getting married in a couple of month’s time. He was sharing with me how expensive weddings are in Egypt. The cost involved with hairdressers and makeup and dresses and photographers is exorbitantly high. Weddings in Australia can also be very OTT (over-the-top). Overseas weddings held in exotic locations are becoming increasingly popular.

My wedding was a simple affair. My best friend styled my hair, and I applied my own minimal makeup (touch of mascara and lipstick). A friend of my husband’s did our photography. I bought my dress and shoes in my lunch hour. My dress was a cocktail dress that I enhanced to have the matching chiffon scarf attached as long, flowing sleeves. The dress was from a boutique store and imported from Canada. I loved it straight away and it fitted perfectly, so I bought it on the spot! It is a warm ivory colour, not ice-white.

My husband does not dance so we had a lunchtime garden wedding. It was held in January which is summertime in southern hemisphere land. The sun shone that day. We are still married and have happy, healthy children, so safe to say the sun is still shining!

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Harbour Bridge

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This is my view tonight, Sydney is counting down to Vivid Sydney starting tomorrow, will keep you posted!

http://www.vividsydney.com

Not My Will

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I dated a Polish boyfriend when I was at university. After we both started working, he began to hint at rings. I felt too young to get married, and also had reservations about marrying him. Though he was a lovely person and would make a great husband, I felt in my heart that we were not meant to be. So I ended the relationship. It took a few attempts. Breaking up is never easy, especially when there is no third party involved.

In ending the relationship when I did, I freed us both to meet our respective long-term partners. He met and married a beautiful woman. It took me three years to meet my husband. By this time I really wanted to be married, and have a family. My clock is ticking people, I’m halfway to thirty! Please! Only one man out of the whole world, surely that is not such a great request! It was only after pleading on my knees, that I finally came to a place of calm submission. Not my will but thine be done. Those words and prayer did not come easily. Not at all. And soon after, my husband-to-be and I started a relationship, and married soon after.

Sometimes we have to give up something to be open to receiving something better. And to have the spirit – not my will but thine be done. A prayer that goes against human nature, and all that our flesh would be.

I acted on kind feedback from others yesterday, and bought a new book!

Happy reading to me 🙂