Omigosh! In December last year on a very bad #mummyTummy day I climbed onto a crowded bus, and a very kind lady beckoned from the front seat and left her spot for me. Offering me the pregnant seat. I sheepishly sat down and said thank you. It felt too awkward to explain. And have been doing tummy crunches and Pilates ever since. Which have obviously had no effect as this afternoon (first day back at work) I was again fighting my way through the bus crowd. Until the very thoughtful conductor on duty said to me, Oh you’re pregnant, you can get on this bus if you like, I can ask someone to move for you. No, that’s okay, I quietly replied, I’ll wait for the next one.
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I would use that to my advantage, why stand up if you can sit down. Just make a litle fuzz so people have compassion for you and…..comfy comfy seating ride 😉
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That’s how I’m working it Charly, as people are offering way too often, that is until they realize this baby ain’t never coming out! 😀
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Mischievous person….
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Am I wrong to chuckle a little? Hehehe. OMG how awkward though no-one can even give an explanation once the seat has been offered this way 😛
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It is funny! Just not so much for me 😀 I always say thank you though, don’t have it in me to say, oh no you’re wrong!
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Yeah thank you works anyway 🙂
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I am not even able to grin because I can sense how you must have felt!
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My stomach has never fully recovered from my c-section Erika, and it partially recovers depending on the level of Pilates I do, but some days it just pops out and honestly I do look pregnant. 😢
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That is very frustrating most of all because you are doing something against it. Our bodies can be so unfair!
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Well, I loved this post and try being my age and being looked at like “WHAT”! Unfortunately, my doctor said after 60 years and 5 children my working out three days a week would make no difference. Just accept the seat and keep smiling you’re a wonderful writer…E
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You are very kind, thank you! I’ve been considering options like liposculpure etc and am so tempted, but the cost is prohibitive. My body frame is smaller than my tummy, so larger size clothes are too big for the rest of me!
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That’s a tough situation and if you end up taking the seat and the same people see you everyday, sooner or later they’ll be on to you..:)
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I feel guilty put into situations so normally I decline but last month the lady got out of her seat and beckoned to me, it was too awkward, but anyway, it’s a fairly big city so chances are slim that I’ll be traveling with the same people every day!
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This recently happened to a friend of mine. She’s not pregnant and not really overweight. She was very embarrassed.
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I can imagine she would be. I was more disappointed than embarrassed! Unsolicited honest feedback.
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So typical people always assume! I agree sit down dear haha
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Haha, thanks Lynz!
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My DIL is 100 pounds overweight due to having a family and being depressed. I feel bad for her, kiss her and tell her “how beautiful she is.” I feel bad since her mother died when she was a teenager and her stepmother died when she was 27. I am her only Mom.
There is no excuse for people “guessing” and I feel bad for you (and my Trista.) Please accept my sympathy, Vonita. Hugs, Robin
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Thank you Robin! I do have two healthy children, so it is a small price to pay I guess in the greater scheme of things. I am very thankful for your empathy xx
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Bless you! I can imagine how you feel, for my sis-in-law has had a similar, albeit very different, scenario recently…she is due in March with her 3rd child, and she has been very “great with child” since early December. She has had endless comments of how big she is, can’t believe she’s got that long, and the over repeated, “Oh, my, girl, you’ll never make it till then!” As you, she just keeps smiling, even though, it pains her, at times, to do so. I admire your gracious demeanor and ever present smile. Keep up the good writing and the gracious smiling. You are a jewel. 😉
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Thank you so much for your kind words! 🙂 the comments are frustrating at times because it has happened more than once, but the main thing is I have children and they are healthy!
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Reminds me of the time at the NV State Fair, they gave me a senior rate and I was about 5 years too young. Ugh. Those moments of “enlightenment.”
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Totally honest unsolicited feedback from society, lol! Sorry to hear about yours x
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